Thursday, June 4, 2009

Our Vows: Tradition with a Twist

When we first envisioned what kind of ceremony we wanted, we assumed it would be absolutely non-traditional, full of our own spin and humor and reeking of who we are all the way through.

A funny thing happened in the ceremony planning process, though.

As we began to think about what comprises a ceremony, the same lines that we'd once rolled at our eyes at - you know, "to have and to hold," "through sickness and in health," etc. - suddenly seemed to glow with significance. To our absolute shock, we found ourselves suddenly humbled and touched by the notion of repeating lines that millions of couples have repeated before us. So we did just that, but injected our own flavor, too.

Gene: "Maggie and Trevor liked the symbolism of repeating words that so many couples have uttered before them, but they wanted to do so with a twist. Therefore, we’ll hear the traditional marriage vows followed by ones that Maggie and Trevor have written FOR the other person. That’s right: Maggie wrote Trevor’s vows, and Trevor wrote Maggie’s vows."

And so we repeated:

"I, Trevor, choose you Maggie, to be my wife... To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, and in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish always."

"Trevor, do you take Maggie to be your wife, and vow to love, honor, and laugh with her as long as you both shall live?”

Trevor: "I do"

And now my turn....

"I, Maggie, choose you Trevor, to be my husband... To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, and in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish always."

"Maggie, do you take Trevor to be your husband, and vow to love, honor, and laugh with him as long as you both shall live?”

Maggie: "I do"


"Trevor, Maggie has asked you to make the following vows:

  • To love and support her through the highs and lows of coffee addiction

  • To provide her with a never-ending supply of strong National Public Radio reception

  • That there will always be time for beach trips

  • To never let her get bored, just like you promised the night you met

  • To try to see yourself the way that she sees you


"Maggie, Trevor has asked you to make the following vows:

  • To love and support him through the highs and lows of sports fan addiction

  • To provide him with a never-ending supply of laughter and smiles

  • That there will always be time for live music

  • To continue to be full of surprises, just like the night you met

  • To try to see yourself the way that he sees you


...and then it was time to exchange rings!

12 comments:

Ashley Brooke Designs said...

I love this!
Seriously... so sweet!!

Leika said...

Perfect! And I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who suddenly found herself emotional at the idea of the vows that used to seem overdone.

Miss HoneyDew said...

What a great idea! How sweet!

Lucky in Love said...

What a neat idea!

One Barefoot Bride said...

ooo! chills... those vows are so sweet! what a cool idea to write the other person's!

noelle said...

Love your idea about the vows - I'm in the middle of writing my own and it's harder than it looks!I think it's great you both used the same first few words for both so they matched perfectly!

Mary Kidwell said...

Wow, this is a really good idea, and really sweet!

Mrs. Newlywed said...

That is such a cute idea. I like that it gives it a twist without being outrageous.

tres cute!

Julie said...

I absolutely love everything about your wedding. It all turned out so amazing and beautiful. Total inspiration to me and your vows are just the latest greatest thing.

Jen said...

This is the first time that I've read vows that are extremely touching and not overly verbose at the same time. Absolutely beautiful! I've always thought vows sounded so trite. Thanks for the example that vows can be tailored and done differently!

Veiled Vows said...

you made me cry! so sweet!

Dangerous K said...

I seriously just misted up. At my work computer no less. Loved your vows!